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Here are few tips to aid you in coping with a nagging wife.
What is She On About?
Women nag about certain discomforts they feel, either it's about the fact that you didn't clear the plates after she spent hours cooking the meal or you missed a really important appointment.
Either way you need to find out what's causing the displeasure and patiently address it. If it's an apology, offer it and if it's to help out more, you both should reach a compromise and create a schedule for it if need be. Gone are the days when women keep up the house all by themselves.
Abusive Words
You do not want to aggravate the situation so best leave the bitter harsh words out. The temptation is always there but it is best to cool off some heat by walking away and addressing the issue much later when she has calm down.
Stand your ground
Most times this can be effective. Don't give her space all the time to flare up at you and you walk out or not say anything. Standing your ground helps stop the nagging sometimes. This can be most effective if she is going on about trivial things that are not to be bothered about. This is however not advised when she's bitter about your relationship, then you would have to talk things through and make her understand whatever it is to help her calm down. Women are delicate, treat them as such.
Ignore her
This can be very annoying to your partner but it does the trick. Ignoring her as if she wasn't even flaring up in the first place or draw up an imaginary hula dancer in your head and letting her know what she looks like when she's upset lightens the situation and ends up in you both having a much needed laugh afterwards.
Distract her
Wanna find a lasting solution to your wife's nagging? Then distract her, when you've done something wrong and she's most likely gonna talk about it. Even before she opens her mouth compliment her dress, the style pattern of the fabric or even her 2 week old hair. This will shut her up, and when she does bring up the issue it will be on a much lighter note. What can i say, women love being complimented. This does not mean you should mess up at every turn. :)
Support Her
Don't wait to hear her say the words, support what she does. This doesn't mean you should hold back on your reservation. Speak up and speak out but still be that shoulder she can lean on at any time. A flirty note while she's at work or a hug before she leaves for the office or even a kiss goes a long way and drives home the message.
Couple Time
Aside from getting time away from your usual routine, this also serves as an avenue for you both to talk about things in your relationship, things you don't get to talk about on a regular basis. It keeps your relationship ever fresh. Reconnect with your partner and look for other interests together as a couple. This is the secret to a nag free marriage.
Been patient with your spouse is very important in a relationship, be it a committed union like marriage or not. Most women have a valid reason for flaring, take time to listen to her before it escalates and she gets tagged a Nagging Spouse.
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But there's so much beauty in nature. That's the thing about physical beauty: It holds our interest for only so long; one thing is always more beautiful than the next.
I once dated a guy who looked like a young Brad Pitt. He was a blond, blue-eyed cherub, and he attracted looks every time we stepped foot in a grocery store.
He might as well have been a barcode. He soon got so used to hearing how cute he was that he got bad at feigning thank-yous.
I later dated a guy who looked different from the cherub, though he was no less good-looking. He had more of a Keanu Reeves thing going on, except that he didn't act like Keanu. Unlike Brad, who acted like the prize he knew he was, Keanu was unpretentious.
It didn't work out with either of the men, but each helped me understand the difference between believing in yourself and believing you're the best.
There are two types of hot men in this world. There are the guys who are aware of their hotness, and there are the ones who aren't. Bear in mind that the latter don't necessarily have low self-esteem.
Guys who belong in this category just aren't consumed by their looks. They don't walk around with their noses and chins in the air.
He genuinely knows the value of a compliment.
The hot guy who knows he's beautiful knows it only because someone once told him. He's seen the double takes he gets when he walks down the street. But the hot guy who doesn't know he's hot isn't looking for validation, so he doesn't notice the stares.
When people do call him beautiful, he shrugs it off.
Every "you're beautiful" is just as valuable a compliment as the one before it. He never lets an abundance of compliments dictate the course of his actions.
He relies on being a good sport, not a good look.
He relied on his personality — not his looks — to get him through life. He may be smart, he may be funny, and he may be both.
Whatever it is, he knows that what's on the inside is what makes him do well in the outside world.
He constantly strives to better his talents. This humanizes him and raises him above the superficial "man candy" out there.
His confidence level doesn't vary from hour to hour.
Self-esteem isn't skin-deep. We can't measure our worth by the number of times we've been hit on. (Well, we can, but we would lead very unsatisfying lives if we did).
We must measure our worth in the amount of good we can offer the world. The "hot and I know it" guys may be confident in their appearance, but their overconfidence distracts from their other qualities.
He isn't the guy who takes ab selfies in the mirror. He doesn't keep shallow company.
He knows these aren't the important things in life, and he also knows that what he does is a direct reflection of what he values.
You can give him makeovers.
He never placed a ton of value on looks, and he never let his wardrobe reflect his worth. His low-maintenance attitude makes him your personal Ken doll. You can dress up your beau, and he won't fight you.
He doesn't dress to impress anyone else; he dresses to impress himself.
He cares more about your happiness than your hotness.
Yes, you fell for each other because there's a mutual physical attraction. But you both know that being beautiful is about more than simply looking it. It's about feeling beautiful, and he'll never cease to make you feel beautiful.
He knows that beauty is fleeting, and though he might have been drawn to you because you're beautiful, he won't leave you when you develop wrinkles and pudge. In the same vein, he won't stay with you just only because you're beautiful.
Physical attraction sparks lust; anything beyond this cultivates love. And love is what matters, because it's the thing that lasts.
He's your little secret.
In a world filled with big heads, humility can't be undermined. A modest man is a real man.
The hot guy who lives in ignorance of his hotness will constantly be asking himself what he did to deserve someone like you. His hotness is your best-kept secret.
He'll catch on only if you keep reminding him of his beauty.
He'll never skimp out on romance.
Hot guys operate under the misguided illusion that their hotness is enough to compensate for everything else they lack.
But your guy doesn't see his beauty as a contribution to the relationship: Just like any average Joe, he knows he has to work at it.
He'll never let his looks get in the way of what he does.
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1. Show her that you have her back, and make her a priority.
Notice that I didn't say "tell" her, boys talk about what they are going to do. Men just do it. Showing her that you have her back with the small stuff in life will build her trust, and she won't have any doubts that you will be there when something big goes down. Pay attention to detail, and be helpful when and where you can be. No matter how busy you are, she should never feel neglected.
TAKE ACTION: If you notice she is running late to work, offer to bring her some lunch. If she is doing chores around the house, get off the Xbox and help her, so things get done faster. Offer to take the kids to school so that she can sleep in.
2. Show an interest in something that doesn't interest you.
No matter how compatible two people are, it's very unlikely that they will share 100% of the same interests. Find something that she likes, and make an effort to learn about why she enjoys it and plan something special around it. Who knows, maybe you will find that this activity excites you as well.
TAKE ACTION: If she loves romance movies, get some suggestions on a good one, cook her favorite meal, and serve it to her. Then, have a movie night with a bottle of wine. If you are not into the movie, act like you are and give her a foot massage.
3. Never tell her she is too emotional.
You may not realize it now, but emotions are a good thing. It means she cares, and that you are not getting it. When you consistently tell her she is too emotional, she will start to believe there is something wrong with her, then she will kill those emotions, and drop you in the process.
Some other guy who recognizes her as a good woman will have to fix your mess because she is now cold as ice. She keeps those emotions locked inside, and/ or she will have to navigate through the wolves of the online dating world, which will probably send her deeper into the ice world. But, that's a topic for another post.
TAKE ACTION: This one is pretty easy, don't do it! She is emotional because she cares, don't make her feel like there is something wrong with her. Be painfully honest with yourself, and realize the problem is with you. And, even if it's not, be a man and make an effort to understand her point of view. Try to be accommodating. It's not about who is right or wrong.
4. Make sure her friends and family think you are superman.
Not everyone will get along with some friends or family, I get that. The question you need to ask yourself is: "How long can I go without messing up," Let me educate you, "forever" is not the right answer. I don't care how perfect you think you are; you're going to mess up, and guess who she is going to talk about it with?
That's right, her friends and family. If your relationship with them is poor, they are going to be the first ones to tell her "I told you so." And, "You need to get rid of him and find a real man" But you are reading this, and it doesn't have to go down like that. Her friends, and family can be your biggest supporters when she is contemplating locking up those emotions, and kicking you to the curb.
TAKE ACTION: Get to know her friends, and family inside, and out. Any guy can remember a woman's birthday, but if you unexpectedly do something nice for a friend or family member's birthday, you will be elevated to superstar status.
If they don't get the hint, don't waste your life.
Performed consistently, these steps can give you the edge over the other guys that are out there learning the hard way. You can be confident that you are improving yourself as a person.
If you are a woman reading this, and you feel your significant other is not up to par, pass these quick tips along to them. If they don't get the hint, don't waste your life; find someone who puts you first, and who is genuinely trying to be a good person.
You might be (insert your age) now, but in the blink of an eye, you will wake up and find that you are (add 10 years to your age), unhappy, and looking at the same guy playing Xbox every day. All while you are doing the chores alone, being a spectator to good relationships around you. Get out and find a good man, because you do not have enough time in your life to make one.
1. You keep a running log of every mistake
You might even throw temper tantrums or pity parties every time your partner doesn't bend to your will in an effort to make them "behave" better. Either way, if they misstep, you're right there to point it out to them.
And doing this makes your partner feel extremely belittled, badgered and miserable. They wish you'd disappear when you behave like that, and the longer it goes on, the less they even want to try to please you (or put up with your self-centered crap).
2. You pack your schedule full, leaving zero time for your partner
Yes, life is busy … and your dreams, desires, and responsibilities are important. However, in marriage, the health of "the relationship" is just as important as your individual wants or concerns. Ignoring your partner or telling them to "get out of your way" so you can "get things done" fuels resentment, driving a deeper wedge between you and your spouse. After all, no one wants a partner who continuously pushes them away.
3. The sound of their voice (or chewing, or breathing) grates your nerves
You cringe when they open their mouth, because you just know they're going to say or do something you find annoying. You pretend you can't hear them, walk away, or do just about anything to avoid them.
But here's the thing, when your spouse (the person who promised to love and accept you the most) acts as if you merely breathing is a disgusting affront to them, you feel tortured and humiliated. Why would anyone want to open their hearts to someone who so clearly despises them? Doing this is just mean. And if it keeps up, your relationship won't last long.
4. You insist they "never change" (when actually, they have)
You're so busy assuming your partner is exactly the same person, you haven't actually talked with them about "them" in forever. All you talk about is you and what you want. They feel diminished and unimportant to you. They constantly wonder whether trying to make the marriage work is even worth it — your selfishness drowns out any effort they make in favor of the "relationship."
5. You begrudge every minute they spend away from you
In your head, marriage means you "own" your spouse. As such your spouse "owes" you their undivided attention, unless they're doing something you approve of or gave them permission to do. Nobody wants someone controlling them this way — that's slavery, not marriage. Your partner having a life of their own is not betraying you. You trying to micro-manage their existence, however, IS a betrayal to them.
So how did you fair? Are you a lousy spouse?
The truth is … we're all lousy spouses … at times. This doesn't mean all is lost. But it does mean it's time you take accountability for the part YOU play in poisoning the marriage you claim you're so oppressed by. Maybe skip running to the lawyer's office, and head to a relationship therapist's office instead. Maybe work on changing yourself before you throw your partner and your marriage away.
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So this morning, I received a mail and a text message that Five Star Music artist Skiibii (who I'd never heard of until today) collapsed in his sitting room and died. And they sent me the photo above. The source said he'd dressed up and was going for his media rounds today when he suddenly fell and was unable to be revived. Because I know the guys at Five Star Music, I contacted them for confirmation. I actually called the music label's artist manager, Soso Soberekon, to confirm the news. Soso, who had already posted a candlelight image on his instagram page said he would call me back with confirmation, that they were just hearing about the incident, that he and Kcee were in Europe. He called me back at exactly 10.02am to confirm that Skiibii had passed on. So I carried the news.
But a few minutes ago (hours after I carried the news), Kcee called me to say Skiibii hadn't died. He said he received the news of his collapse this morning but said he wasn't sure what was going on because he was not in Nigeria. He said his brother told him Skiibii had been found with no pulse and wasn't breathing. They rushed him to the hospital and after hours there, he has been revived. Kcee told me he wanted me to be the first to announce he's back to life because I broke the news of his alleged death.
To be honest, I find this all very strange. Skiibii just released music and has been on the road for a week now promoting it. Someone said to me that all this could be a stunt…for him to trend (which he is – he's the number trending topic in Nigeria) and all media houses in Nigeria have carried his supposed demise.
If this is a stunt, then it's quite sad that they would go to this extent to make him known to Nigerians. I know a lot of Nigerian artists put up stunts, but to play with your life is sick! Extremely sick! But if it's not a stunt and he indeed woke from the dead, then I'm very happy for him
Olamide: Olamide has managed to appeal to all kinds of music audience there is in Nigeria. The street knows Olamide just as much as he's known by the 'tush' people. This isn't a coincidence at all. You can feel the street vibes in all Olamide's song, you can equally get the feel good dance vibes. Other artists have identified this part of him, hence the reason he's one of the most featured artists in Nigerian presently.
Lil Kesh: Lil Kesh made the 'Shoki' dance and beat popular. You can't mention 'shoki' today and leave his name out. Being an integral part of the YBNL set up, one can easily say Olamide has had a lot of input into why he appeals to the street.
Small Doctor: Everybody in Nigeria may not know him, but he's very popular on the streets. His usual lines like 'I dey kill mosquito well well' has found its way onto the lips of people on the streets; even women. Street carnivals could not have enough of him last December.
Phyno: Phyno took the whole country by storm just as Da Grin did by being to Igbo speaking people what Da Grin is to Yoruba speaking people. Phyno successfully broke into the western market with a collaboration with Olamide. That turned out to be the collaboration that calved a niche for him as rapper the hood wants to listen to.
Misteer Kenzo: Although not yet fully known all over Nigeria, but his very popular in the streets after he droped "Kolo" track. He did most of his songs in Orange Music as he also hope to become the new C.E.O of Orange Music Production. He has done many tracks which are yet to be realeased officially by Orange Music.
Watch out for him and incase you don't have one of his songs you may download it below.
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Download Money and Fame by Misteer Kenzo ft Mchil and Lyricle
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If one were so inclined, however, one could convince the world they were millionaires, even if their bank accounts are stagnant with only three zeroes. Remember, a big part of tricking people into thinking you are rich is by really selling the cause. This is a performance piece, and if you play it weak, that will be detected.
Have all the swagger of a millionaire and follow these ten simple steps and you just might convince other people that you are rich when really, you are anything but. Remember, lying is never good, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.
10. Car Rentals
Listen, there are key moments in everyone's life when you show up somewhere and all eyes are on you. If you pull up in a Pinto pretending it's a Porsche, no one is buying it.
However, before some of these key moments – think high school reunion – if you were to rent a sports car by the hour, it won't empty your bank account but it sure will show the people you went to high school with just how upper class you have become in their absence.
9. Nice Jewelry & Watches
Sometimes a quick way people assess one another and try to figure out if a person is well-to-do is the accoutrements they have on. Be it a nice, brand name watch, or a piece of jewelry that clearly cost a pretty penny, the accompanying accessory can cast that illusion nicely.
keep in mind, people seeing these watches in passing have no way of knowing if you are wearing a high grade knockoff *wink wink*. Remember, it is all about social status, and in this case, you are just projecting yourself a little bit larger than what you really are. No sin there.
8. Act Douchey
The big reality about money is, most people who have it think themselves superior to people who don't. So if you want to seem like you have or come from money, there has to be an heir of "my poop don't stink" hovering around you at all times.
This does not mean being outright rude, but it does mean carrying yourself like you are surrounded by peasants. It is awful and cruel, but when emulating the rich, you gotta do it right or you may as well not do it at all.
7. A Chapeau
Yes, if you want come across like you are rich, you need a big time, stuffy hat. For a man, it can be a bowler or a fedora. Hell, even a top hat screams big money. A man in a top hat strikes us subconsciously as far more powerful than the man in the baseball hat.
A good hat can up your social standings in people's eyes almost immediately. The same can be said for women. Have you ever seen the hats those rich broads wear to the Kentucky Derby? Madness, pure madness.
6. Know Your Food
One thing rich people all love to demonstrate is their knowledge of food and the foodie culture. If you go out with some friends and order a bacon burger, there are no allusions to what's in your account. If you go to some place and order Kobe beef browned in truffle butter, people are going to look at you like you just walked out of a castle. In this case, it is just about basic knowledge of food and what flavors go well and what foods are seen as upper class (hint: duck, lamb and Kobe beef).
So order like a rich man and watch as people just assume it to be true. Just pray that doesn't end with them thinking you are rich enough to pay for the whole meal. Remember, all this is just an illusion meant to up your social standing.
5. Wine Knowledge
Sadly, this is another huge aspect of the bourgeois. Boxed wine is not normally what they engage in. In this case, we're talking about just educating yourself so when the wine gets presented, you can awe those around you by mentioning "hints of oak with an almost cacao finish." That is pretentious, and that is exactly what rich people do.
Also, ask the table what color they prefer and then order for them without asking – super rich person move. They're pretty crappy social skills in real life, but they will convey "rich douche" to whomever you are with at the time.
4. Constant Phone Calls
"Excuse me, this is business and I simply have to take it. So sorry if this seems rude. Business never stops, as they say." That is all you need to know. Memorize that speech now and make it so you do get calls at dinners and parties and ALWAYS take them, but always announce to the entire room how important it is and how sorry you are.
You will run off and the people around you will just assume you must be closing in on some big deal, because who else would act like that much of a butt during a meal out in public? Another key to this one is walking back to the table smiling, saying "crisis averted." If anyone asks what it was, just make some fancy stuff up. They will eat it up.
3. Designer Pets
"Normal people have dogs? Well, we have a Labradoodle, which is a special, extra badass, super pet that most normal people cannot afford. We also have a llama out in the back yard for the kids to mock, and we have a rare, blue, African parrot that can speak three languages."
Keep in mind, all you need is a bird and a normal dog. Just say this stuff, and if all other elements from this list are in order, they'll believe you. Remember, it is all about casting a believable illusion.
2. Fakecations
"Sorry everyone, we will be gone from August 1st to September 21st. We are going to hike part of the Appalachians and then maybe spend the last couple of days flying out to Cozumel to reward ourselves for hiking the Appalachians. So whatever you do, do not try to hit us up in that time because we will not be around."
Thing is, you will be around. But everyone will just assume you aren't so they wont bother you. Take two or three fakecations a year, and everyone will think you are not only living in the lap of luxury, but that you arethe lap of luxury.
1. A.B.S: Always Be Scarf-ing
Seriously, rich, pretentious people never take their scarves off. So just buy one or two decent silk scarves that match well with a few of your outfits, and wear them everywhere. Just think about someone like Johnny Depp if you want an example. Here's a grown man who wears scarves everywhere, and people accept it because he is rich.
If you begin wearing scarves everywhere, everyone's subconscious will just switch and be like, "The dude's gotta be rich. No one else would risk looking that silly."
Yes, it is an act of self sacrifice, but that is part of this process, too. No one ever said pretending to be rich would be easy.
1. Remind Your Boss Of Your Current Workload
Being that we all are human, we can only take on so much responsibility before life becomes a little too hard. Do not let it all stress you out to the point where you put your health and mentality at risk. Remind your boss of your current workload and projects you are working on.
By showing that you are at work on a variety of other important tasks, you show your boss that you have taken on some responsibility already and that you are working on completing them in a timely manner before you begin anything else. Do not be shy to use this technique. Saying no without expletively saying it in this case is a great way to keep everything neutral and as stress free as possible.
2. Say No Without Really Saying No
Have you ever heard of saying no without really saying it as? Certain ways to do so include, using your body language to convey the message and changing tone of voice without being offensive. Use expressions such as "When would you need this done by? I would love to help but…" Make sure you explain yourself clearly in order to convey the message that you cannot but avoid saying no to new projects out right to your boss. Instead think of ways to let your boss know that you would really rather not.
3. Plan On Making Changes To Your Schedule
Sometimes saying no to right now situations when feeling over-burdened is a great tactic. Once again, explain what you are working on when your boss approaches you and see if there are changes that can be made in order for you to complete all that is asked of you.
Perhaps they can suggest having colleagues work on some tasks to help share in the burden. After all, a work environment is supposed to be a team! Plan to make changes to your schedule and ask around the office for help and support if needed. Do not neglect your resources and enjoy working as a unit. Maybe changing your schedule will not have to be done after all.
4. Question Your Boss's Needs
Do not be afraid to question your boss's needs. Ask your boss, calmly of course, about the purpose of certain projects and why it needs to be done at this time. If your plate is full, let them know. If not, reevaluate whether it is worth you questioning to avoid appearing idle in the workplace. Example responses include "How important is this?" or "I have a full schedule of tasks ahead. Why does this project need my attention now?" Use a calm yet confident voice as this may help your boss in reevaluating his own priorities and whether or not this task can be completed by themselves.
5. Pitch An Alternative Solution
If you fear saying no, try offering another solution to fix a project or something that needs to be completed. Examples include offering suggestions on how to make things less stressful in terms of the proposed work or asking for the work to be divided between groups so that it is able to be completed on time. For smaller projects that you may feel over burdened with, ask your boss if perhaps there is someone in administration or an intern that can be of help. Alternative solutions can limit stress and benefit everyone involved.
6. Suggest Colleagues
Suggest colleagues that might be better trained to complete the task than you. Think that something your boss wants you to do is out of your job description? Make suggestions about others who may be more equipped than yourself to handle it. Examples include being asked to write a report about IT management yet your position is in human resources.
Suggest a co-worker who does work in IT who is more knowledgeable about the subject and can better answer questions. If your boss prefers for you to write it for whatever reason, try asking if there is a way if perhaps you could partner with a co-worker to get the job done. Do not stress yourself out and use your resources.
7. Communicate Your Limits
Let your boss know what your limits are and when. If things are not going so well for you, let your boss know that you might not be feeling the best you can feel to complete a task with quality.
8. Make Sure Everything Is Clear From The Beginning
Make sure people know your limits from the beginning. By being clear I mean, make sure that your boss knows what you are best at doing, how you can help them and why you are there in the first place. It is all too often that once a job begins, employees often find themselves doing extra projects outside of the job description. If you are not willing to take on this extra work, let your boss know from the beginning that you would rather use your skills elsewhere to benefit the company.
9. Schedule A Meeting
If all else fails, make sure to schedule a meeting with your boss and confront the situation. In the meeting let your boss know your limits and whether you are feeling stressed. Do not let yourself become a doormat, always the person your boss goes to when looking to get anything and everything done. Remind your boss why you choose to work for them in the first place and emphasize your skill set and what you can and would like to focus on.
Focus on staying relaxed and confident as you approach your boss with one of these ways of saying no. Emphasize how important you think all work is to the company but remind them what purpose you are there to serve.
Remember to look on the bright side of things! If you feel unsure about how to approach your boss about something you do not want to do, pay attention to the way others interact with them. These 9 smart ways to say no can definitely get the point across. Use your talent where it is best needed.
Have you ever had to say no to a boss? What helped you get through it?
To help you ladies understand the mind of your man, I've listed below the main things that seem to dominate our thoughts. I hope these insights spark some rich conversations in your marriage.
If your husband is like most guys, his thought are probably dominated by…
(In no particular order)
1. Concern for your happiness
This one might surprise you, but most husbands can never be happier than they believe their wife is. Your happiness, contentment and joy is of the utmost importance. Sometimes our own selfishness and pride gets in the way, but your happiness is a consistent thought. When you are unhappy (or you seem unhappy), we'll try to figure out how to make it right.
2. s*x
This one probably isn't a shocker, but we actually think about s*x even more than you think we do. It dominates our thoughts. In fact, most of us wish we could dial down our mental s*x drive. We'll often gauge the health of our marriage based on the health of our s*x life.
3. How to achieve more
Most guys are results-driven, and even if your husband has achieved "success" in life, chances are he still feels like he doesn't measure up in certain areas. Men can be (to a fault) driven to achieve. Engage with your husband in conversation about his goals and dreams and remind him that healthy relationships, not trophies or money, are the ultimate measure of success. We guys need to be reminded of this often.
4. Searching for peace
Men tend to crave silence and solitude in a way most women do not. Men tend to mentally recharge through silence and contemplation while women tend to recharge through conversation and engagement. Again, these are generalizations which don't apply to every individual, but I've observed them to be true in a majority of couples.
5. Food
This one might seem carnal and shallow, but we think about food all the time. If you took all the brain space we use up thinking about food and s*x, most of us would have the mental capacity to memorize an encyclopedia! I've been thinking about my next meal the entire time I've been writing this article!
6. Money
Most men are wired with a need to be a provider for their families. We'll often think hard about ways to make ends meet and generate more income to provide. Sometimes this healthy need to provide can consume us and evolve into an unhealthy need to generate wealth motivated by selfish ambition more than family provision.
7. Sports* (but not necessarily for the reasons you're thinking)
We love seeing modern-day gladiators battle it out on the field and we even will sometimes live vicariously through them (since we all have an inner gladiator inside), b*tthis isn't the only reason we like sports. We also like sports because on that field or court, everything makes sense. The lines are clearly drawn, the rules are known by all and scoreboard is always in view. We wish all parts of life were this clear and measurable.
We want "success" but don't always know if we're winning or not in most areas of life.
*Even when a man isn't into sports, he will usually gravitate to one or more hobbies where he can "keep score." (Video games, fishing, car shows, poker, etc.) There seems to be a hard-wired desire for structure and/or measurable success in most men's hobby pursuits.
8. Pain from the past
Just like the "instant replay" in sports, most of us have a few major life regrets or scars inflicted on us that we are tempted to keep replaying in our minds. They haunt us until (or unless) we learn to embrace the richness and depth of God's grace. If a man won't embrace grace, he'll lock himself in a mental prison where he will punish himself (or punish those around him) for the wrongs he's done or the wrongs that have been done to him.
9. Leaving a legacy
Every man wants his life to count. He wants to be respected by his family and he wants to make a lasting contribution to the world that will endure beyond his own lifetime. Most men feel the constant pressure of wanting to leave a legacy, but not knowing where to start or how to do it. We often need to be reminded that being a faithful husband and dad is the best legacy of all (even if there's never a marble statue carved in our honor).
Have you ever been with a man who seemed to really like you, only to begin distancing himself and saying he really wasn't ready for a commitment?
Why is it that he ends up marrying the next woman he dates? Was he lying when he said he wasn't ready for a commitment?
The answer comes down to deep emotional attraction.
In all likelihood, he was not lying when he said he wasn't ready for a commitment. In fact, unlike women, a man'sdefaultmode is that he is not ready for (or even looking for) a commitment.
It takes a special kind of deep emotional attraction for a man to feel compelled to keep a woman in his life with a shared promise of committed intentions for the future.
What creates that intense emotional bond for men?
I can tell you one thing for certain. Men experience relationships for what they are here and now,in the present moment.
This is a stereotype, but because there is so much truth in it you would be foolish to ignore its implications for your relationship.
Research with men and women in the early stages of dating relationships has shown that women typically consider themselves to be "in a relationship" by the time the third date rolls around.
In contrast, men do not consider themselves to be "in a relationship" untilseveral months of exclusive dating have occurred.
Even when he's exclusively dating one woman, a man will be surprised when his counterpart suggests the relationship is exclusive. Why is that?
Again, it comes back to the fact that men tend to spend less time plotting and planning the course of their lives in terms of relationships. Men do not define their lives (as much) by where thingsseem to be goingin a relationship.
For your man to reach a point where hedesiresa committed relationship, something very significant must occur first.
He must experience anintenseemotionalattractionthat causes him to feellessalive when he isnotin your presence.
If you would like to learn a method for triggering this special kind of intense attraction, watch the presentation I've prepared for you on What Men Secretly Want below.
Starting every morning with a glass of warm lemon water is actually a ritual in Ayurveda or Yogic traditions, used to stimulate digestion for the day and clear the body of any toxins that may have settled in the digestive tract overnight.
While it is tricky to apply the strict burden of evidence expected by Western science to traditional practices (often called "folk medicine") that originated long before modern medical science standards were developed, research on the nutritional elements found in lemons suggests the numerous health benefits traditionally associated with drinking fresh lemon water daily may have merit.
We tend to reach for those warm beverages in the morning like coffee and tea, but try starting your day with some warm lemon water first to kick-start digestion. The water doesn't always have to be warm, but it should be purified. Simply use half a fresh lemon per large glass of water or to taste and sip throughout the day. On a simple level, fresh lemons take plain old water up a notch. Here are 5 health benefits of drinking lemon water that elevate drinking it for reasons beyond just taste:
*.Support immune function: Lemons are high in antioxidant vitamin C, known for its supportive role in healthy immune function1,2 which may reduce the risk of respiratory infection3. Ascorbic acid (vitamin C) found in lemons demonstrates anti-inflammatory effects, and is used as complementary support for asthma and other respiratory symptoms4,5. Lemons also contain saponins6, which show antimicrobial properties that may help keep cold and flu at bay. Last but not least, ascorbic acid enhances iron absorption in the body; iron plays an important role in immune function7.
*.Alkalize the body: Although the tartness of a lemon may make them seem acidic, lemons are actually one of the most alkalizing foods for the body. Lemons contain both citric and ascorbic acid, weak acids easily metabolized from the body allowing the mineral content of lemons to help alkalize the blood.
*.Aid digestion: Citrus flavonols8 are believed responsible for lemon's traditional use as a digestive tonic. Believed to stimulate and purify the liver, lemon juice is traditionally understood to support digestive hydrochloric acid in the stomach further aiding digestion. Vitamin C status has been associated with reduced risk of peptic ulcers caused by the bacteria Helicobacter pylori9.
*.Clear skin: Vitamin C and other antioxidants in lemons combat free radical damage. Free radical damage — especially as caused by UV exposure and environmental toxins — is responsible for many symptoms of aging. Antioxidant intake can help offset this damage, minimizing wrinkles. Further, lemon juice can be applied topically to scars and age spots to help reduce their appearance. Traditionally used as a liver stimulant, lemon water is also believed to help purge toxins from the blood, helping to keep skin clear of blemishes.
*.Promote healing: Ascorbic acid (vitamin C), found in abundance in lemons, promotes wound healing, and is an essential nutrient in the maintenance of healthy bones, connective tissue, and cartilage10. As noted previously, vitamin C also displays anti-inflammatory properties. Combined, vitamin C is an essential nutrient in the maintenance of good health and recovery from stress and injury.
